If you haven’t seen the movie Fight Club, drop whatever it is you’re doing and go turn it on.
Here’s a small summary from imdb.com “An insomniac man who is an ordinary worker of a huge company, an IKEA buyer and classic consumer of capitalist system is very bored of his ordinary and routine life and meets with a person that is totally who he wants to be. And after that his life changes, with his new friend he creates a fight club that is gonna evolve very big movement all over country that even he can’t imagine.”
Tyler Durden is everything most people want to be. He does whatever the fuck he wants and doesn’t even blink an eye at something that doesn’t spark his interest. He isn’t concerned with the status quo or what anyone else thinks of him, he does what he wants, when he wants and doesn’t give a single fuck about what anyone thinks about him.
So what can we take from Tyler Durden to stop being alive and to start LIVING?
Stop Trying To Control Your Life:
In the movie the most important lesson Tyler teaches Jack is to let go. Stop trying to micro manage every single area of your life. Every single day we are given the blessing to lie our lives and do whatever our heart desires, most of us spoil it living within the status quo of what we accept as reality. We work our shitty 9-5 to drive a shitty car, come home to our shitty spouse who we decided to settle on, just to enjoy two days off on our shitty weekend. Some people don’t even have it that nice, they just work, eat, sleep and repeat. Living life like a broken record goes against everything in Tyler’s philosophy. Stop trying to control everything in your life. Stop trying to control what other people think about you. Stop trying to control the image you project to the world. Be yourself and don’t give a fuck. Yes people will call you arrogant, or an outcast, the list can go on. I would rather be an arrogant asshole that enjoys my life than a conformist prick who loathes the in and outs of my everyday life.
“I say never be complete. I say stop trying to be perfect. I say let’s evolve and let the chips fall where they may” – Tyler Durden
Start Living, Stop Being Alive.
Most people are another statistic. They wake up, go to the job they hate, to work with people they dislike to pay bills for shit they probably don’t even want and can’t enjoy. There is a huge difference between actually LIVING life and letting life live you. Most people choose the latter instead of the former and it’s a pretty sad reality to face. Chances are if you’re reading this you have had dreams, ideas or goals that pick a hole in your fucking brain all day. They are constantly there to remind you how shitty your life is because you haven’t taken massive action and went for them. The majority of people go through the motions and never truly enjoy themselves, they let life live them and before they know it they’re sitting on their death bed thinking about all the things they wish they would have done when they had the chance. Tyler says do whatever it takes to feel alive. This is why he starts an underground bare knuckle fighting club. It makes him feel alive. It gives him something to look forward to and unleash his primal side. I’m not saying leave the office and start whooping ass. I am saying to do those thing’s you’ve always wanted and keep nagging at you. Quit your shitty job and pursue your own venture, it’s easier now than ever before and if you have a computer or smartphone you have all the resources you need to be successful. End your dreadful relationships. A lot of us have “friends” we keep around just for the sake of having friends. We spend time with them because we feel obligated to and its another reason to avoid doing what we truly want. Drop the dead weight. You don’t have to be am asshole about it but you do have to do it. Surround yourself with people who inspire you and push you to try new things you never have. Instead of sitting around watching Netflix and gossiping about the people you wish you were like, go out and meet new people. Try new things. Enjoy new experiences. You probably never knew you liked chocolate milk until you tasted it. There are thousands of metaphorical “chocolate milks” out there. Things we can do, people we can meet, experiences we can have that we may love but we will never know because we are too complacent to try them.
You Are Going To Die.
Every night we go to sleep believing we will still be around to see the next day. This is not a guarantee and thousands of people die overnight every single day. If you have no sense of this then you will have no sense of urgency. Pretend you bought a beautiful salmon filet. It was expensive, wild caught and it looks absolutely fucking delicious. You check the package and see it expires in three days. Oh shit, you better eat it or its going to waste. So what do you do, you pull out a skillet, oil it up and eat the delicious son of a bitch because if not, it’s going to waste and getting thrown out. You are the salmon. You have an expiration date. Unfortunately for us, we are still alive and not aware of when that expiration date will be. For all you know, you’re `driving to that mediocre job and out of no where a drunk driver smashes into you and takes your life. This is reality. These things happen every single day. To people who don’t deserve it and had a lot they could have brought this world. Life is unfair and every single day is a risk. The grim reaper is always around the corner. Take action for your life, it’s ending as you read this. Stop thinking you have all the time in the world to work now and play later. Don’t wait until you are about to die to realize the importance of life. Be a creator, do something to impact the world. Do it now and do it like today is your last.
Tyler Durden is a bad ass. We all wish we could be like him. He loves every single day of his life and he is truly unique. He isn’t confined by the status quo and only does what makes him happy. Obviously it’s not realistic to take this to the extreme and give up everything you know in order to enjoy your life. We have to work to eat and we have to conform to certain rules to maintain our freedom. Being like Tyler Durden isn’t about being a barbarian, breaking laws and pissing everyone off. It’s about freedom of self. It’s about living the life we truly want one nudge at a time and realizing it’s possible. Take these principles with a grain of salt and find a way to apply them to areas of your life where you suffer most. Eventually, you will have the life you truly want and won’t have to conform to the rules of everyday society. Start living, stop letting your life live you.